R. Kelly survivor, Asante McGee penned an OP-ED for NBC where she described Kelly's grooming process.
McGee was featured on the Lifetime docu-series, 'Surviving R. Kelly' and was not underage when she met Kelly, but explained how he was able to manipulate and control a grown woman - something McGee explains in the article.
She explained how she met Kelly before detailing the abuse:
"For the years before that, I never saw anything that was a sign to me that he was abusive or controlling; I didn't notice the red flags. I thought, He is R. Kelly. He wants to protect me, so when he told me not to speak to people about coming to see him, because they might try to attack me, I believed him," she wrote.
"He even had an example: He said that one of the girls he had been dating came to one of the shows — maybe in Houston or Dallas — and she mentioned to the Uber driver who she was dating, and she was attacked; they beat her up really bad, and put a gun to her head. He made it sound as if the Uber driver had someone on the phone, saying Hey, I got one of R. Kelly girls, and so I thought, given that situation, that he really trying to protect me by telling me to be quiet about him."
McGee also claimed alleges that Kelly wanted her to talk like a little girl:
"I also never had any idea that he really liked minors; I was not a teenager, I was nowhere near a teenager. The only small red flag was that, when we were together, he always wanted me to talk like a little girl. He would tell me what to say, I would repeat it, and he would keep telling me "No. Do it different, do it a little softer," until I got to the voice that he wanted. I thought it was odd, but then I thought that maybe it was just a role play for him."
McGee was blasted by fans of Kelly after the documentary aired because of her age, questioning why a grown woman would stick around for so long and endure the alleged abuse.
"People keep saying, Oh I would never allow a man to do this to me. I would never this, I would never that. You never know what you would allow until you're put in that situation. I promised myself when I left my ex-husband that I would never allow another man to abuse me or mistreat me, and I ended up with R. Kelly, in the very situation I'd promised myself to avoid. I genuinely did not think that he would hurt me on purpose; I know now that he used my pain to his advantage," she explained.