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Chill From TLC: Black Woman Should TRY Dating White Men . . . That's What I'M DOING!!!


Rozonda "Chilli" Thomas has some advice for Black woman looking for that Prince Charming,. She wants them to date "primarily" White men.

Chilli spoke with Essence to promote the eight-part Netflix music documentary series Once In A Lifetime Sessions which features TLC. And during that talk Chilli gave the controversial dating advice to black women. The 47-year-old told the mag, “I want for women — especially for women of color — to not be so closed minded when it comes to love." She continued to stress her point saying, “God made all of us and you may not find your husband because you’re trying to stick to one group. You’ve got to be open.”

But Chilli didn't end there. She stressed the importance of finding the right man for each woman, regardless of his race. According to Chilli, if you limit yourself to only Black men, you could be missing out. “You want the person who’s the best person for you, no matter what color he is.”

Chilli is practicing what she preaches too. She out here “testing the waters” and dating someone currently who she says, “is not Black.” 

At age 20, Thomas became pregnant by producer Dallas Austin; however due to career aspirations and the outside pressures, she aborted the pregnancy. On her show, What Chilli Wants, she would reveal having regretted the decision. Thomas and Austin continued their relationship, and would later have one son, Tron Austin (born June 2, 1997). 

In 2001, Thomas began dating Usher. Their relationship lasted for two years: they broke up in December 2003, followed by a media frenzy surrounding the personal nature of Usher's fourth album, Confessions. His fans inferred the reason he and Thomas split is due to infidelity on his part, giving allusions to the lyrics of the songs.

In an interview on The Bert Show on the Atlanta radio channel Q100 on February 17, 2004, Thomas claimed that Usher cheated on her: "Usher did the ultimate no-no to me....I will never be with him again, and that is that". Usher defended: " just didn't work out. But cheating is not what caused the relationship to collide and crash. That ain't what broke it up".[